Looking back

I woke up this morning thinking now that I am about to reach 30, what would I tell the younger me. It has thinking of the things I would or wouldn’t do. All the things I missed out on and the things I miss about being young. So If I were to write to my younger self, I think it might go something like this…..

Wow, we made it! Can you believe that well be 30 in just a few months. I know the idea of being 30 has always scared us, it’s the time when your official not a kid anymore. When you’re supposed to have your life together, have money, kids, and a husband. We see everything so differently than we did as a child, we have collected so much wisdom over the past years. Looking back, these are the things I would tell the 13 year old me.

Just because you’re getting older doesn’t mean you have to grow up, you don’t have to lose your creativity or imagination. You can, and will always be a child at heart.

Don’t rush going up, enjoy being young and free. You will miss it.

Be less concerned with how you feel you’re supposed to be, and be more concerned with discovering who you are.

Don’t rush into anything you aren’t ready for, when the time is right you’ll know it.

If a guy is only after you to be intimate, than he isn’t worth your time. You CANNOT change him, so don’t even try. The only person you can change is yourself.

Love and respect the reflection you see in the mirror. Others will only respect you as much as you respect yourself. No one can ever love you as much as you can love yourself. You are the only one who has to live with yourself.

Life does not need to match television, it does not need to be dramatic or full of lies and betrayal. The woman you see on television or in magazines aren’t real. They have either had plastic surgery, or been photo shopped. So stop comparing yourself to them, you are beautifully perfect just the way you are.

You cannot control how others treat you, you can only control how you treat others. Show them kindness even they don’t give that to you.

Friends will come and go, let them. The ones who were meant to stay, will always find their way back.

You will kiss a lot of guys until you find the one, but when you find him you’ll simply know.

Love should be easy, it takes work to keep a relationship together but that underlying love should always be there, and it should always come naturally. These are the relationships you should cherish the most.

You do not have to live a life of misery, if a job, person, or place makes you unhappy get rid of it. We only have so long to live, so we should live a life of happiness.

What you give, you get. Be kind, and you will have it returned. Be hateful, and you will have it returned. That is how life works, and there is no way around it.

What you think, becomes how you feel, and how you feel becomes what you do. Remember to have positive thoughts, they will comfort you when you need it the most.

Don’t judge another even if they judge you. Simply share a smile, show them love and kindness. They are the ones who need it the most.

Always be 100% yourself, and you will find everything you’ve ever needed.

But most important of all, don’t EVER give up. Even in times of darkness, there is a light that shines within us. If we’re never shown are strength, then we’ll never know what we are capable of.


I love you.

30 year old me