I’m sure everyone has heard “You grow up to be like your parents”. Most of us say, I will never be like that but then we grow up and we actually do become them. We may notice it in little things that we do, or how we do things. For instance, my mother has always cleaned her sink. As a child and even as a teenager I thought that was so weird, why would you be worried if your sink is clean or not? Now that I own a home, I too clean the sink. I did it a few times without even taking notice but one day I stopped dead in my tracks and thought, oh my I’ve become my mother. I was shocked but then started to laugh, I had always thought this was so weird but here I am doing and enjoying it; thinking to myself this sink has to be spotless.
Now that I have done a week of soul coaching it has brought to my attention some issues that I do that I wasn’t even aware of. This made me think, there are so many things are parents do that we obverse, and view as okay behavior. Even if we learn later that this behavior is not acceptable, we still (more than likely) will repeat it. While doing my lesson for yesterday one of these truths came forward and for the first time I noticed something about myself that I had never seen before. As most of you know I am married, my husband loves me very deeply and I him. I know that he wont leave me, so because I know this there are often times I am mean to him because I know I can be. I know that this is no way to treat someone that you love, and that loves you but for some reason I do it anyways. The reason, I was shown this behavior as a child, I picked it up and thought it was okay and have being doing it ever since. I always thought my actions were beyond this but here I am, seeing the truth. It sucks to know that I am hurting someone I love for nothing. So, I took the steps to change it. Since I am now aware of this, I can be more proactive when I get upset to say to myself “Why am I doing this? Is there a reason behind it? Do I mean it?” I told this to my husband, apologized for being mean and told him to tell me when I’m being mean because often times I don’t know when I am.
We pick up good and bad habits form our parents; we watch everything they do and for the most part what to grow up to be like them. So as you grow and learn be sure you are aware of the person you have become. Make sure that it is your trustiest form of yourself and not the reflection of things you’ve been taught. Brake the pattern, take the steps to rid yourself of the things that do not serve your highest potential.