Whats the difference? Selfless, Selfish & Putting yourself first.

Most people believe that putting yourself first is being selfish but is it? We all know that being selfless can be just as unhealthy as being selfish, but where is the line? What does it all mean, and where does each end and begin? This is what spirit has told me, and what I have come to understand….

Most of us are so busy taking care of others, our homes, running errands, and working crazy hours that we are often left forgotten. Then there are some who put their desires above all else, with no regard for anyone else. They are only happy, or act when it serves them. Do you see the problem with both of these things? Everyone you encounter leaves being unfulfilled. The energy exchange doesn’t benefit either party.

When you give, give, give without first giving to yourself, your left empty and depleted. How can you give to another if you first do not give to yourself? How can you give anything, when you have nothing left to give? A similar thing can be said for someone who always takes and never gives. Only looking out for yourself, can lead to sadness and unhappiness…even depression. As most of the time you end up alone.

The world is filled with people who give, receive, and those that do both. Those that are selfless give too much, and receive nothing. Those who are selfish, take too much, and do not give. Then there are those who put themselves first, and both give and receive. Do you see the difference?

Someone who has put themselves first, knows that it is important to both give and receive. They know that by taking a few minutes each day for time for themselves, they refill themselves and in return can give more to others. They know that it is important to make yourself happy and put your needs first but still respect the feelings of others. They have found a balance of taking only what they can give back.

I believe that being self-aware is a huge part of putting yourself first. Knowing your boundaries, and sticking to them. Knowing what you will and will not tolerate. Self-care is the best gift we can give ourselves, nobody else is going to take care of you the way you can.

You are your greatest love. Be your own soulmate. Know who you are, and what you want. Step into your power. Find balance & harmony. Heal. Let go & move forward.

Learn to both give and receive, and watch things begin to transform. You are a choice away from a new way of being & living.

Is it time to change, the choice is yours….

 

Blessings,

Xo Faye

Message from above

Last night I had someone ask for a reiki session, I had some time so I told them to come over. I have done many reiki sessions before, on many different people but this one I don’t think I’ll ever forget.

Before they even got here, their guides came to me and I knew how important it was that I do this. It was no longer a wanting to help them, it was a need to help them. I prepared the room as I always do, selected crystals for them, and prepared myself. They came over, I began the session and just like that over an hour had went by. I swear, every time I give or receive reiki time seems to melt away and almost not exist at all.

After finishing the session, I knew that I had helped them in every way I could. I knew that the light had won this battle and they now could heal, if they so choose it. As I said I have done many reiki sessions before but this one in particular left me feeling like a true warrior of light. The darkness no longer frightens me but rather makes me smile; I know my power and I know that light will continue to conquer the dark.

The message (& point of this) is spirit wants you to hear is this – Step into your power. It is time. Every answer you seek, is within. Everything you need, is within. Stop looking outward for help and begin to look within. Let go of the wrongs placed upon you, take responsibility for your life. Step into YOUR power. You have a beautiful power source waiting to be used. Forget everyone else, forget what they say, what they do, and how they act. This is YOUR time. Decide who you are, who you want to be. Find your truths, and let them shine. Step into YOUR power and let your light to shine so brightly, don’t be afraid if it’s too bright for others; their options don’t matter. Set boundaries for yourself, and stick to them. It is YOUR time, take care of yourself. Find the love you give to everyone else, for yourself. Find something that you love, and makes you come alive. It is YOUR time to be happy, to explore, and to be at peace. Let go of the past, the door is closed. Don’t look ahead to the future, its unknown. Live in the moment, day by day.  You will get where you want to be if you work hard, stay focused, and follow what you love.

Passion just like fear guides us to where we are meant to go, and who we are meant to be. If something is amazingly terrifying that is a clear sign you are meant to go that direction. Step in YOUR POWER. It is YOUR time to be the fierce force that you are. Don’t back down when it comes to your dreams, and never take “no” for an answer.

Step into your power and let it set you free.

 

Namaste.

XO,

Faye

Society tells us how to feel…..

The world we live in tells us how we are supposed to act, and how we are supposed to be; and when we don’t act that way we are harshly judge and criticized.  But why do we put standards and rules on the way we feel? Everyone is different and not everything that happens to us is the worst day or the best day of our lives and that’s okay. We are not perfect, we are human. We are meant to learn, grow and evolve from the emotions that we feel. I know that television and magazines show us how we are supposed to be flawless but that too is a lie.

When we find what others perceive has happiness (even though we don’t feel it/ or even if we do) we are supposed to be happy. I have seen in my own life, as well as the lives of countless others that “the show” / or the projection that we show the world is all that matters. We are told to “fake it” and how unfair is that to ourselves. Think of the growth and learning we are disabling within ourselves when we ignore those beautiful feelings. Yes, even the more undesirable feelings are beautiful. Those are the ones that teach us the most; even if their lessons are often painful and cruel.

When we do find happiness but then it fades away; we are told that we must stick around. That we won’t find anyone that loves you as much as they do. Well that is a complete lie, if you rid your life of those relationships that are no longer serving you then you are only making room for bigger, better things. We are told when someone passes away you should be sad; sometimes a person transitioning isn’t an awful, sad thing.

We’re told that getting divorced is the something that should make us fall into this deep sadness and loneliness; and if you are happy and feel a sense of release and freedom you clearly “never loved them at all”. People are quick to judge rather than take the time to understand; but I have found that some would rather stay in the comfortability of misery than spread their wings and fly. That’s okay that is their choice. We just do not have to project that onto others.

That if you get married more than once you’re told “you don’t understand what marriage is” like you have defiled it in some way; but I prefer to think those that marry more than once are a lover of love. They fall quickly, and deeply in love believing without a doubt that this is right; just because it doesn’t work out doesn’t make them awful people, it makes them human. Things happens, soul contracts end and begin all the time. It is okay. We have to be gentle with ourselves, be kind to ourselves, forgive ourselves but most importantly we have to love ourselves. Since everything begins and ends with us; we cultivate our own reality. We are the captain, and the key holder to whatever torture we put ourselves through. Value others options less, and yours more. Follow your heart, let it guide you and learn from what you experaince.

We all do things for ourselves all time, often without even noticing. We make our own choices, choose to make them out of love and not fear. Stay in a positive mind set as best as you can, it will do more for you than you even know. Life is hard, it’s cruel and sometimes it’s downright lonely but that’s all okay. Remember the only thing permeate in this world, is that nothing is. So enjoy the time in the darkness, it’s where you grow. Enjoy your time in the light, it’s where you shine. Enjoy the love in your life, and all the beauty that surrounds you. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and lived. Be present and don’t care what others say, the only person you have to live with is yourself.

 

Xo

-Faye

Upgrades…

Today I woke up feelings at ease, peaceful and still; like this wave of silence washed over me while I was asleep.  I feel renewed in a way that seems familiar; yet is unknown to me. Perhaps this is what it is like to find bliss on earth, or perhaps I am simply aligning with the path set out for me. Either way this is a feeling that I am truly grateful for; as I know it won’t last forever.

Before I went to sleep last night I asked the universe, angels, spirit guides, basically everyone to help me release from my ways of the past. To move past fears I am unaware of, and anything that is holding me back from aligning with my true self. I know that my prayers have been answered, simply by the way I feel. So thank you everyone for helping me in ways I was unable to help myself. That’s the thing with free will, we have a whole bunch of people waiting to help us if we only asked for it.

I feel all the beautiful things waiting for me, and I am not allowing myself to get in my own way anymore, or to block out all the things I wish to bring into my life. I am open and ready. I will give and I will receive. Balance and patience. Trusting that all will work out, in divine timing the way it is meant too. Gratitude is such a powerful tool that we can use in manifesting our dreams and desires; if only we realized it. Being grateful for the wonderful things and the not so wonderful is such an important part of life; and living a life of love.

Everything happens to us for reasons we don’t yet know. Think about it, if you had not left that broken relationship than you may have never met the person you’re with now. The universe has a plan for all us; and yes, it is not all kittens and rainbows but it isn’t meant to be. We need those tough times, those times of darkness are there to teach us the lessons we must learn. There are no lessons in the time of light, that is only were you arrive to celebrate your victory.

The key to feel whatever you’re feeling is to learn from it and then let it go. You are not the darkness that you are feeling. It is only a stepping stone on the way to enlightenment. Take the time and do the work. Take care of yourself, give yourself the love and attention you so freely give to everyone else.  Life is meant to be enjoyed, loved, and lived. So be present, enjoy what you enjoy with the people who make you feel wonderful. Your body or your heart will never steer you wrong; listen to what your body is telling you.

The full moon is coming up next Saturday, I know I am ready to cut the cords of the past and enter into a new chapter, a new beginning of my life.

Here’s to love, happiness, fulfillment, and peace!

 

Have a beautiful day everyone!

 

Xo

 

Faye