I came across this little nugget of truth this morning on word porn’s Facebook page. This resonates deeply with me and I can totally relate to this. All of us could relate to this on some level, I’m sure. When you love someone else they become a part of you and that love just doesn’t disappear over night. More often than not you see love turn to hate. Its so funny to me how quickly people resort to hatred, its just easy and familiar to some I guess. I believe that hatred is a result of a incapability to move on, that they are stuck on someone else. Either way, it is not a positive way of dealing with loosing love.
I know I have dealt with this situation in my past, I was in a relationship with someone for years. I had not grown from this partnership, I had actually done the opposite and regressed. I became a whole new person, once that I came to not notice or love. I tried so many different times to be happy. I was in love, and thought that was all I needed to be happy. I was wrong. Through that partnership I learned that in order to be happy with someone, you must first be happy with yourself. Otherwise any amount of love another gives you will never be enough. Ultimately I came to the very tough decision of ending it. I was sick and tired of everything. I needed a change and this was the only way I knew I could find myself again. It has been one of the hardest choices I’ve ever had to make but it was also the best choice I could have ever made for myself. I felt as if a weight had been lifted off mys shoulders. Knowing I gave all that I could give was enough for me. I will always have a love in my heart for him but just because that love is there dose not mean its where I belong. I see that so clearly now.
I’ve come to the realization that people make choices often for everyone else or they make them out of fear. They go through life being completely miserable because they feel they deserve it or it is normal. When you take a step toward changing your life and others do not understand or agree with this choice a lot of things happen. First, you see everyone for who they really are. Second, you will be called names and judged. Thirdly, you will find a new sense of freedom. When you do something “crazy” like leave a relationship because you’r not happy people will jump to all other sorts of conclusions, let them. People will not understand but this journey is not for them, its for you. You are the only one who has to understand, you owe no one an explanation. Know your self worth, know that you have the ability to change the world around you. Once you find this hidden power that is inside all of us, you will become unstoppable. Make choices that are better for you. Shine so brightly that you make everyone wear sunglasses.